A TV drama series which will be out soon will recapture the events in the life of a 42 year old woman who went sex crazy to relieve herself of panic and pain after she was diagnosed with terminal cancer.

In the drama series, Dying For Sex, a friend tries to tell the story of Molly Kochan who had left her husband and embarked on an odyssey of sexual self-discovery after she was diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer.

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Nikki Boyer narrates, and now plays out, how Kochan was trying anything from kicking a man as hard as she could in the crotch, to spending time with a foot fetishist and engaging in “water sports.”

After confiding in her friend about her rising obsession with kinky sex, Kochan and Nikki decided to make a podcast about her new mission; and in 2020, Dying for Sex was released.

So extraordinary is Kochan’s story that the notoriously choosy five-time Oscar nominated actress, Michelle Williams, broke her acting hiatus to play her in a new TV adaptation of the same name.

After two days immersed in Kochan’s story I feel like a human raisin: dehydrated from crying and laughing.

“It’s so desperately sad to keep realizing that this vividly funny and thoughtful person died in 2019,” the actress stated in an interview.

The Oracle Today learnt that two things happened when Kochan started hormone treatment: her libido increased and she couldn’t sleep. So she began posting sexy selfies in her underwear to men she met online all over the world to “distract [herself] from pain or illness.”

It was learnt that Kochan stopped counting her online dates at number 183. Her photo swapping progresses into FaceTime calls and, eventually, physical meet-ups with men of weird sexual desires, including with a man who wanted to be treated like a dog and be caged up in her house.

In one of her podcasts, Kochan had stated: “I’m so interested in learning why?”

Many of these experiences are condensed into one character called ‘Neighbour Guy’ in the Hulu show, played by Rob Delaney.

Kochan is delightfully open-minded and kind about these hook-ups and when Boyer manages to interview some of the men Kochan met it is clear how caring she was towards them, even for just one night.

“The question of why she is experiencing these desires haunts Kochan personally, and we eventually learn of a terrible childhood incident, where she was molested by her mother’s boyfriend at the age of seven.

“Dominating her partners gives her a sense of control in sex when she had none as a child, helping sexual experiences to feel empowering rather than shameful or, as she says on the podcast, a “power struggle,” stated Boyer

This sense of agency is also important to coping with her cancer diagnosis – another thing she feels like she has no control over.

Her newfound agency encourages her to meet with her doctor on her own terms, asking him to sit to answer her questions and allowing her to address him by his Christian name. It sounds like a small thing but juxtaposes brilliantly with the scenes showing the harrowing realities of cancer care: from scars, tubes and walking sticks to being strapped down to have radiotherapy on her eyeball.

In the podcast, Kochan realises, with time, that the reactions to her photographs and her trysts don’t shield her from her cancer like they did at the beginning, and what she really desires is connection. Sadly she doesn’t get that romantic love in the end, but she has a deep, beautiful and enduring friendship and love from Boyer right up to – and beyond – her final breath.

Following Kochan’s death, Boyer got to work on the podcast with the assistance of the recordings she and Kochan did together, along with Kochan’s bequeathed phone, laptop and book manuscript. The podcast is just six episodes long, and Boyer has explained since that she and Kochan intended it as the first of many series, with follow-ups to include a fuller exploration of Kochan’s childhood trauma and Boyer’s own heartbreaking health battle with miscarriage and IVF, which she was going through during Kochan’s cancer treatment and which the TV show leaves out.